Choosing the best man and groomsmen for your wedding party is a privilege which comes with many responsibilities. Traditionally, only men were chosen as the groomsmen and best man. Nowadays, regardless of gender, grooms are choosing the person best suited for the role. Women are quickly settling in as honor attendants, just as men are being sought after as 'bridesmaids'.
When Choosing, There Are Many Factors to Consider
When getting married, a friend chose a good high-school buddy as his best man. At the wedding ceremony, the man disappeared and was later found wandering outside in the parking lot when he was needed at the altar. The friend realized the best man was drunk and wanted to kick himself for not thinking harder about his choice.If you are having trouble deciding on whom to ask as your best man, ushers, or attendants, don’t make your choices out of guilt or obligation but think hard about who will adequately fill the shoes.
If you agree to accept the honor of best man, groomsman, or honor attendant, do take it as an honor and seriously. Are you supposed to have a good time? Yes, absolutely. But pitching it to make the whole event a success is just as important. You can get involved in at all sorts of levels. The key is to be AVAILABLE for any duties delegated to you. Getting to know what you need to do in advance goes a long way. So getting in on the game early will be help you and everyone else. If you feel you are the outgoing type, you can be part of the welcoming party, and make other guests feel welcome and comfortable at the rehearsal dinner. If you are a techie by personality, maybe giving ideas and helping out with the lights, sounds and graphic displays will come in useful. If you feel you can take care of the bar (who wouldn't want that job!), then coming up with a specialty drink in a set of personalized toasting glasses made just for the occasion may be your signature touch.