What
are Groomsmen?
When
a groom (also called ‘bridegroom’) is planning to
get married, he selects one or more men to assist with certain
aspects of the wedding. These men are called groomsmen,
and are better known as the ushers in the wedding party. Customarily,
there is a one-to-one ratio between the number of groomsmen and
the number of bridesmaids in the bridal party, but not always.
The best man is also counted as part of the groomsmen.
What
Is the Difference Between the Best Man and the Groomsmen?
The best man is part of the groomsmen, just as the maid or matron of honor is part
of the bridesmaids. However, the best man is usually a closer relation to the groom (such as brother or
best friend) and has a higher honor and greater responsibilities
than do the other groomsmen.
Why
are Groomsmen Needed?
The
best man serves as the witness to the marriage. The groomsmen
assist the groom in the planning and orchestration of the wedding
and ceremony.
Responsibilities
of the Groomsmen:
• Seating the guests prior to the ceremony
• Arranging the bachelor party
• Assisting with tuxedo choices and rentals
• Entertaining the bridesmaids at the reception
• Depending on country and custom, other responsibilities
Additional
Responsibilities of the Best Man:
• Caring for the bride’s ring while at the altar
• Serving as witness to the marriage
• Giving the speech at the reception
• Depending on country and custom, other responsibilities
Should
Groomsman Gifts be Given?
Just
as the bride gives gifts to the bridesmaids, the groom typically
gives groomsmen gifts to thank his groomsmen for sharing in the wedding day. The gifts often are delivered during
the rehearsal dinner or other event prior to the day of the ceremony.
Other customs call for groomsmen gifts to be given during
or after the reception.
What
Type of Groomsmen Gift Should be Given?
When choosing a groomsmen gift, grooms would
be advised to select wedding gifts, which are both unique and appropriate for the ushers and occasion. Cufflinks are among the most popular groomsman gifts. Golf
gifts, engraved, or personalized gifts,
including stud sets, money clips, and watches are common wedding gift ideas.
How
Much Money Should Be Spent on Each Groomsmen Gift?
Too
Cheap? Too Expensive? These are common issues the groom faces
when shopping for individual usher gifts. The
amount of money spent on the groomsmen should be proportionate
with:
•
The wedding budget
• The cost of tuxedos (which should be consistent with the
wedding budget)
• The number of responsibilities the groomsmen are expected
to undertake
For
example, if the wedding costs $100,000 and the groomsmen are renting
high-priced tuxedos, spending $5 on each groomsman gift would
be an insult. Likewise, if the wedding budget is only $5,000,
giving out $200 groomsmen gifts is unnecessary.
Where
Do I Buy Groomsmen Gifts?
Although
there are many places on the Internet to purchase gifts, a specialty
website, such as Groomsmen.com,
has a wide selection of groomsmen gifts for all budgets, including
flasks, cufflink cases, key rings and stud sets. Most importantly,
we especially like their same day engraving policy, which can
bail out a procrastinating groom with some great personalized
gifts.
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